Raising 5 children, that are all male, and living to talk about it.
I have talked about this before to a certain degree, but with 5 kids you think I could squeeze at least five articles out of them… OK obviously I could squeeze a lot more out of them, but I don’t have enough Kleenex on hand to wipe up the snot… Boys are hilarious, they get dirty, they bleed a lot, they bruise a lot, they cry, hit, yell, break stuff, A LOT. If left unsupervised they would seriously take over this house and sell the copper wire from the walls for Slurpee money… So I don’t let them. Yes that’s right, I don’t let my kids do whatever they want, whenever they want to do it!!!
The assault on family continues, no parent is meant to do this all alone! And horrifically fathers have been breaking their relationships with their sons and daughters in droves by abandonment alone. I suppose that in some cases they were forced to leave, but the fact remains that people have become so self-indulgent, that a need of anyone else, is a far distant second, to a need of my own.
So that needs to change, dad’s need to stop leaving, and get things together with his spouse. But let’s say you have that, raising 5 children then is easy right? Well no of course not, duh. But even if it is a lot, we still need to teach them how to be great people! So if we want them to be a great person, then we MUST teach them to LOVE!
Now here is the part I hope people can catch. How should we teach our kids to love? Is it by simply showing that we love them? Well how do we show love? Giving them things? Listening to them? Accepting them as they are? That is a part of it, however it is (and should be) only a small part. The problem is that parents go so far down that road that the kids begin to parallel “love” and “I get to do what I want, whenever I want to do it, because I’m just awesome!”… I am gonna throw this out there, see what you think. Maybe we need to teach our kids how to love, by first teaching them to love their parents! Hmmm.
Listen to this; putting someone else before you is what we quote at pretty much every wedding, right? But when it comes to raising kids and we do the exact opposite! We make them the center of attention! And while that’s great for a newborn, a 6 year old that still thinks the world revolves around him is going to be a COMPLETE BRAT, multiply that by 5 and wow. Actually you can multiply that by a lot because it has been happening… You can all think of one of those kids right now. Being served constantly does not teach one to love! The actual serving teaches one to love! And for some strange reason we have ignored that FACT when it comes to raising children.
This can obviously prove difficult if the kid is already 14… So start now, while they are young. Fathers specifically, you need to teach your sons how to love, respect AND honour YOU. Don’t be a lunatic slave driver, but also don’t be a complete push over! And this is so important, fathers, YOU need to be the one that disciplines your sons! They will learn that there is no better learning experience, than being corrected by a father.
When a son realizes that his father will correct him, cover him and IMMEDIATELY forgive him, do not hold onto resentment, bitterness, anger, that son will give into his father’s love, completely. Hey we are doing this, times 5 and my kids know I love them, because they know how to love, because they know how to serve their parents!
Raising 5 children is very possible, and it’s very possible to do it very well! Hey are your kids not listening to you? READ THIS!