Might as well quit this gig.
Ok so I recently received an incredible reward for some of my work. I have invested into photography obviously. But I also invested into some social media sites, Google+ being one of them. Say what you will about the platform, I love it, it makes sharing my work so easy. And because I found it so easy I just plugged away at it. Well now around 500 photos I have posted on Google+ has reached 1,000,000,000 views! Yes that number is A BILLION! Just crazy. But is this the end?
Now before I dive into what I am about to reveal, let me say that I am extremely honored AND proud of this accomplishment. But I am going to say, that as great as that number is, I’m just not satisfied with it, and I am NOT going to say, “I might as well quit!.” Now to cue all the comments about “success” and how Iv’e done a “good job”, well frankly the term “good job” has become incredibly harmful to me in the past.
Ask my wife how motivated I am to do something that I like to do. She will say “He will stop time if he has to, split the atom, craft a ship capable of light speed, just to get to do that thing he loves.” But then she will go onto say that I quit more hobbies than most people have ever even started! Why? Why do I do that? Well, it is because I thought I had arrived at some goal I had set for myself, and that goal was all tied into what people said about me… Let me tell you that we really have an inflated view of ourselves, as soon as I would hear “Oh you did a good job” I thought “Well I guess I’m a great success!” and shortly thereafter, quit that thing.
I hate having to calm people down after I say something like that, so this time I will let those of you that dislike the above statement stew in it for a while, and talk to the people that REALLY want something more.
The military knows what I am pointing at here. They bring in a recruit and push them, hard, and long, and get them to the point they think they can’t go any further, and push them more. They push them past that thought “I might as well quit.” Do they break? YES that is the point, the recruits realize that they are capable of SO MUCH MORE than they ever possibly imagined! It’s incredible!! The issue that people really get their nose out of joint about, is over those who are pulling that response out. The “evil drill Sargent “.
Ok so people can go too far at times, maybe, but that is besides the point here, so let’s not get stuck on it. The point is that there are people all around that push us forward, and we hate them for it. We hate being told “It could be better” when we know dang well THAT IT COULD! “Who are they to tell me what’s good enough?” If that is you and you get irritated because someone is trying to get a better result out of you, get over it! LISTEN to them! Allow them to spur you forward. You know why they push you? It’s just like the army, THEY SEE YOU HAVE MORE POTENTIAL!!!
Who wants to be more? Then don’t go looking for the small approvals that people give out like they are chucking candy off a firetruck in a parade! If that’s all you do want, then great! You got it! Let me tell you “Good Job!” But don’t get angry when there are swarms of people passing you by, because they are not looking for the reward men can give out, they are looking for more than candy.
Sound too harsh? Then you are not one of the ones that really wants to push yourself, you are very satisfied with the candy, and I guess that is allowed. For me however, I loathe that part of me that says “good enough” and moves on. I am not a slave driver on myself, I don’t slave drive my kids either. But I look for those people that have the revelation that the candy cannot satisfy them, and if they just went a little further, stretched a little harder, pushed a little deeper, they could have an incredible steak diner, and candy would never satisfy them again.
Ok, so if you made it to this point great! Let me dispel the hating. You have a talent, it’s good, it’s awesome, it’s yours, it’s beautiful, and unique even! But just like a mathematician, you don’t get better at math, by not doing math! More so, you don’t get better by just doing the type of math you are good at! You MUST stretch yourself. Be learning. Be experimenting. Be Trying. Allowing yourself to be pushed. Be happy about the small achievement YES! But do not allow yourself to be satisfied on the things that just cannot satisfy you, like the candy.
I hope this helps you break through to the next level of all the great things you are doing, don’t give up, push forward, and thank those that help push you! Please feel free to voice whatever you are feeling in the comments below!