How many times have we heard this: “MY KIDS WILL NOT LISTEN TO ME!!! WHY!?!?”
Well there could be a number of reasons that your kids will not listen to you. And it would be very easy to try and say “Oh they are just free-spirited” or some other excuse… The fact is that if your kids will not listen to you, does NOT begin with the child! It begins IN you.
We have all seen the kids screaming in the supermarket, restaurant, park, home, van… Ok everywhere, and really, EVERY kid at some point has chosen not to listen to the voice of authority. What I watch for however, has this become a regular occurrence? If so we need to ask ourselves why? Is it some sort of medical condition? Most likely not. How about personality? Well if your child has a personality of not listening to authority, well, why again? I am going to lift the pointing finger away from the child here, and actually point it at you!
As parents WE have an incredible responsibility to shape the future. Sure kids ARE the future, but HOW we raise them will DETERMINE that future! Teaching our kids something as basic as listening to, and obeying authority is going to go a long way in shaping the future. So how do we do this? #1 is stability. I have talked about boundaries around children before, let’s go a step further. A child needs to know you are not going to break for them, but a child needs to learn they must break for you.
One of THE WORST things you can do for your child is flip flop on rules and even punishments. Imagine our jobs doing that to us? One day this is how you build a house, so you come into work the next day, and it’s completely different! If that pattern continues you are just going to give up! This is more than just a routine. To build stability we must understand that we are not always going to be “the good guy”, helpful tip as well, husbands and wives make sure you back one another up! I hate to see one parent decide one thing, and then other reverses it because the kid whined enough… That is teaching your kids to manipulate authority!
Our children will be taking care of us some day. Imagine how we will be treated if our children are not taught to respect authority? They will not care about the elderly whatsoever, because they were trained not to! By US! So do you want to stop saying “My kids will not listen to me!”? Well then start providing some stability, MAKE them listen to you, set serious consequences in place if they do not, and DO NOT bend on them! Eventually, once the child breaks, that child will love and respect you, and THRIVE under your authority!